Your Opinon On Marriage

[イ★シ]

I guess that planning marriage in advance is kinda naive because it's not something like walking to a shop and buying a game or some home supply. I think every time is good as long as you have the person you love besides you and both of you want this.
Also I know that some people consider marriage as something scary, difficult and responsible. Of course it is, but it's really not that bad at all especially when you think about that a little bit more. Marriage comes naturally after going out with someone and realizing how much you love that person.

[Rogue_Agent]

And the good Lord did say "Go Forth And Multiply".

[*****]

Surely you believe that you must marry, eventually.

definitely, and i I ever want a relationship it'll only be marriage. But at the moment I have a lot of priorities that I'd want to complete before getting married, so right now im not thinking about it

[イ★シ]

And the good Lord did say "Go Forth And Multiply".

Yeah, because you need marriage for that.

Yeah.

Sadly these days, marriage is being done only for the kids and then the divorces only worse it up.

[Warrior Princess]

In my country, it's normal if couples have children without being married.

[redeyedcat]

I think it depends on the people. Want marriage? Go for it. Want co-habitation? Go for it. Do whatever makes you happy in relationships, although not at the expense of the other person.

For me personally, marriage wouldn't be my bag. It would be nice to meet someone in the future I guess, but at this point in time, I'm just content to go on with life and be my own person. What will come shall come.

[Zoe]

In my country, it's normal if couples have children without being married.

I think that's pretty normal almost everywhere now haha.
I know I wont have kids until i'm married...that's if I decide to have any at all

I believe in having a strong, faithful relationship with your partner before getting married. I don't believe it's something you can just do, without having that love and commitment between eachother. It also takes a lot of time to plan the perfect wedding haha!

[*****]

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I'd say so in most capitalist countries, but places such as west asia, the middle east and africa fornication is still regarded as big issue.

[Mechacide]

I believe in having a strong, faithful relationship with your partner before getting married. I don't believe it's something you can just do, without having that love and commitment between eachother. It also takes a lot of time to plan the perfect wedding haha!

Depends on one's priorities. It's the West where most divorces take place, despite most people being together for a while beforehand and seeing how they get along. In the East, where a lot of arranged marriages occur, there is much less divorce, and though most people don't have that "try-out" period beforehand, they still live happily together throughout the rest of their lives.

Some people have faith in their senses, and they partner up with another person to gratify those senses and to fulfill emotional desires. Some people have faith in forces beyond themselves, and they partner up with another person to carry out their duties.

That is my opinion on marriage. I'm somewhere between the two, but more towards the latter than the former.

[Evil_Gotenks]

I don't get the whole "Strongly Agree" point... like what??
is that meant to be "I love marriage so much i marry on the first date" kinda thing?

Anywho, i'd like to get married someday and all that, but i don't mind what other people do. If they have a full fledged family of 6 goin on, but the parents rn't married, i won't go marchin them up the aisle...
And i can see why some people wouldn't go for it though... Weddings r expensive, and so is divorce

EDIT: Just had a bigger nosy through the thread and saw this... needed to reply

Well perhaps I could understand a married couple getting divorced due to money problems or whatever...but I'll never get why married couples decide to do this when they already have children.

The children should ALWAYS come first despite whatever happened between the parents. Children need two parents.

At least in my opinion.

Child of divorce right here. Guess what? I'm perfectly fine
Divorce doesn't make life hell for children, its how the parents act through the divorce. I probably wouldve been worse off if my parents actually stayed together for me and my brother's sake as my parents just had alot of fighting and they don't get along now. They divorced when i was around 3, so i don't remember then being together, and while sometimes i do think what it would've been like if we were still the one family, i do realise i have it good.
The reason the divorce worked is because they were civil about it. They didn't go around fighting for custody, they didn't do the whole arranged schedules thing and they didn't involve us in anyway with the divorce. They knew how to be nice to each other when they needed. It probably would've been a bit worse if i was older and could remember it, but i really don't think it would've.

Anywho, divorce doesn't fuck up the lives of children. Its the parents actions during and after the divorce that do.

[イ★シ]

I don't really get the whole point of making the wedding expenssive and asking your entire family from both sides to come and plan meals and everything for them too.

I'd like my wedding to be plain and cameral in a way. Only the closes family members like my parents, siblings, grandparents and that's it. It's not a celebration for your family. It's something personal and for yourself and your partner.

But I can also see why people don't marry these days. Divorces happen more often and there're a lot of unhappy families around so people are scared to get married and then fight for their kids, belongings etc. It's easier to say gtfo to the other person and kick them out because they can't argue you back and demand things from you.

[MikeBreezy92]

The whole be fruitful and multiply comes with a marriage because in a good marriage, there is more stability in the child's life and both parents can raise the child properly and in God. of course today's world is more secular than ever so it doesn't happen as much......

/religion

Anywho I want to get married but I'm scared I won't find the right one,meet the wrong person, get married, have kids divorced etc. I just wanna be with my child and wife until I die, happily married. I want to break the stereotype of the black community in America that our fathers aren't **** AND give the middle finger to our divorce rate as well. My two cents....

[Evil_Gotenks]

Well people would rather cop out and get a divorce rather than try work at their problems...

Although as a child of divorce, i no that sometimes its the best solution. If it is just the two partners, its probably best to work it out, but if a child is involved and things r gettin really bad, divorce should be considered imo.

[イ★シ]

I can't say much on divorce because I'm that 'happy kid' who has a full family of mom and dad. But it ain't colorful and nice as some people might wonder. My mom hinted me and my father many times that she wish she has never married him and that she planned divorce many times. Also when I was just a kid. We don't work as a full family here. My parents rarely are on good terms but they both knew they depend on each other and need each other in living so they live together but I rarely sense love in the air if that makes sense. I'm awalsy jealous of those kids who have loving parents and everything seems to go relatively good.

Also I know that divorce doesn't always mean the kid(s) will be sad and such. As Gotenks said, his parents divorced when he was a kid and he barely remembers them being together and such. He grew up that way without his father so it's easier for him to speak about that. I agree that it depneds of parents and how they act through divorce the most.
I know cases where one parent left/divorced while their kid was around 7-12 and witnessed the whole mess and fights over belongings, house and itself. It could be horrible. Sometimes kids are angry for the other parent for ruining the family in their eyes, for leaving them early or when they needed them.
It's rarely these days to see a parent who despite having another family or such, cares in a way for their kids and sometimes tries supporting their ex-partner.

Also I know why people in middle east don't get through divorces but I ain't touching that matter as I want to stay here and enjoy my life as a member.

[Evil_Gotenks]

Just to clarify, i didn't grow up without my dad. He has always been in my life and when i was younger i lived with him probably just as much as i have lived with my mum... I no i said they never did the whole "you have them on weekdays, i have them on weekends" type deal, but it was kinda an unwritten rule that we'd spend one week with one parent, the next with the other. But this was more to me and my bro's taste though because if we wanted to stay longer or leave early we could... We weren't forced to change over when we didnt want to.
As we got older we then kinda took over that so rather than it was our parents being nice to each other and not stoppin one another from seein us, it became us wantin to make sure we spent time with both parents.

When children r involved divorce is hard on the parents too u no

[*****]

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I don't get the point of aiming for short term relationships and that's why I find girlfriends etc a waste of time. I much rather actually attempt to stay as long as possible. I look at all the problems on Jeremy Kyle etc because of lack of parenting, or because someone gets pregnant and leaves there partner for dead etc. And no I don't agree with the need of having an expensive marriage, if I do get married I plan to have my wedding pretty cheap. I don't see the point in all of this materialistic pagan things to be honest. I think a lot of ppl get put of because of the amount of money involved, but as long as you have it sensible I don't think it will be a problem.

Edit

Regarding arranged marriages, it's not something I'm found of to be honest, and I actually disagree with it. However if someone's doing it and you feel it's the right thing, then its fine by me

[Evil_Gotenks]

I didnt see anybody mention short term relationships...

And i'm actually wonderin now, if ur against the whole dating thing and ur against arranged marriages, just how exactly r u gonna get married?
There's not many people that will be willing to skip the girlfriend stage and go straight to being a wife. Unless u go to vegas

[Mechacide]

lol @ Vegas.

I never experienced a divorce, because my parents were never married, but they broke up when I was 2-3 as well. I never had an issue with it, possibly because it's all I've really known, but I honestly think it was best for me. Both my parents are quite intense in ways, so I wouldn't want them both around all the time.

[Rogue_Agent]

Marriage is a good method of avoiding illegitimate children. Although at times I feel sympathy for those who were born into this world without having parents with a stable relationship. The parents should take into account the future of the child and then act according to that logic, instead of following the urge when it takes them.

[Mechacide]

Marriage has little to do with "illegitimate" children, it's about the people and their mindset. Just because you're married, doesn't mean you're ready for kids, and just because you're not married doesn't mean you can't accidentally have kids.